I have lived with MRKH for 33 years and I still have sadness around fertility.

I have healed and made peace with my MRKH diagnosis but knowing I will never experience pregnancy and child birth will remain with me forever.

Before we got married both my hubby (who was my fiancé at the time) and myself discussed adoption / surrogacy but after careful consideration and lots of discussion two and fro over a period of time we carefully decided together that we would not purse it. The main reason was 5 years after my diagnosis I had a nervous breakdown and was worried I would go through postnatal depression if I’d had a child. I never wanted to relive and suffer those dark days again.

Fast forward a few years later and we had been married about a year we looked into fostering, but sadly due to my in laws poor health decline we decided to put it on hold as we had to be there to support my in laws in their later years and to care for them.

Once my Father in law died let’s just say my age by then wasn’t on my side and as time had moved on regards to my emotional state of mind I had decided that things in life happen for a reason and it may of not been the path that I would have chosen, but was a blessing in disguise.

In this present moment of my life I am grateful that we remained childless because I have such wonderful relationships and bonds with children that as a mother I don’t

feel I would have had the energy and desire to have! I work in childcare, I have the best of both worlds. I have a happy balance of children in my life and the added bonus of being able to concentrate on my wellbeing and quality time spent with my hubby, friends and family.

Also I’ve had the privilege of having such wonderful experiences such as traveling on the Orient Express and visiting Venice and Rome….. I feel we would have not been able to afford that if we had been parents.

For me infertility is a subject that is very close to my heart and I’m in awe of anybody who purses parenthood that does have fertility barriers. In my mind it’s a honour and a privilege if people succeed.

I have learnt and accepted that parenthood wasn’t meant for me, but I’m ok with that, because my journey has taken me on another rewarding path being “ Mary Poppins” / “ Nursery Mummy” and for me not having children has meant it’s not the end of the world.

Life is what you make of it and what you do with it can truly make a difference.

This post was shared as part of our support of National Fertility Awareness Week (NFAW) 2026