Recently I was asked what advice I would give to someone newly diagnosed with MRKH. Now 41, I took myself back to my 15 year old self and thought about what she may have wanted and needed to hear when her world flipped upside down and her heart broke. The prose below is what resulted in this tender encounter with my younger self and sent hot tears running down my cheeks. So whether you’re newly diagnosed or like me and been living with MRKH for many years, I hope these words talk to that tender part of you, provide a little bit of comfort and embraces you in a loving hug of compassion.
Sending so much love to you.
Your MRKH sister,
I wish I could wrap you up and hold you until it stops hurting.
I want you to know that it won’t always feel this way.
I know it hurts so much right now and you wonder if you’ll ever make it through.
Be gentle with yourself and trust that you can and you will.
Give yourself a moment
Take a deep breath
Take as many as you need to
And know that whatever you are feeling right now is okay and it is valid.
There is no right way, no wrong way,
Just the way that feels right for you.
Cry, scream, shout
Let yourself feel it all.
Write, paint, dance, create, be in nature and let the healing waters flow from your eyes.
It’s so important to honour and release your feelings,
Instead of exhausting yourself by trying to hold it all inside.
I want you to know
You are not less for this loss.
You are enough, so very enough
And one day soon,
You will see yourself as I do.
Fierce, strong and brave.
Beautiful, tender and kind.
You are not alone in this.
You are so loved
And you are all kinds of wonderful.